As parents, we’ve all heard the saying that we must put on our own oxygen masks first before our children, as a metaphor for how we can only take good care of our children if we take care of ourselves first. But when babies need feeding, or toddlers need a boo-boo bandage, or offspring of all ages need attention, it’s almost impossible to say, “Sorry, little one, I’m taking care of myself right now! Be with you later! “And Drew Barrymore is right there with us.

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“As a parent, I dislike the term self-care because I really think when I’m going to do it?” The actor, talk show host and entrepreneur told SheKnows. “And then I just feel like I screwed up before I even started. Like I’m a failure at something. “

We couldn’t have said it better ourselves!

“I haven’t exercised in three months because my kids are in school and I’m drowning between work and that,” said Barrymore, who raises 7-year-old Olive and 6-year-old Frankie with ex-husband Will Kopelman. “You are going to have a child and move to this neighborhood called Guilt City. Then you will live there for the rest of your life.”

Barrymore is one of the many celebrity mothers we love for being open and honest about how hard parenting is, even for someone with privilege and help. For single mothers, forget it!

But instead of the stereotypical candlelight bubble baths, Barrymore has found a form of self-care that actually fits into their life pretty easily: turning your backyard into their sanctuary. That’s why she recently teamed up with the new sustainable lawn care brand.

“I was on my lawn with my kids this weekend and had an amazing weekend. We felt like the happiest people in the world,” she said. “It is not the spa candle moment that we all struggle with. It’s a very meditative thing and there is actually a circle where you can grow things to eat or watch your kids play on the lawn you just planted. You can feel good about how you did it. And yes, I won’t be very good at getting a massage. I will be able to exercise better on the lawn and in the garden. “

If gardening isn’t your thing or you don’t have a garden of your own, don’t stress that either. It all comes down to taking a little time, whether you want to call it “self-care” or not. Take a tip from another TV parent, Karamo Brown of Queer Eye.

“Set alarms on your phone all day long to remind you to take some time for yourself,” he told us last year, directing everyone, parents or not, to a room with a lock on Find the door, go in there and even escape a few minutes. “And no matter how many times your kids knock on the door or whatever, as long as they’re safe on the other side of that door, don’t feel guilty for not answering.

We all feel better with these celebrity mothers sharing the ups and downs of parenting.